{"id":1615,"date":"2020-07-09T11:41:56","date_gmt":"2020-07-09T11:41:56","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hehematches.com\/how-to-avoid-users-abusers-and-manipulators-in-dating-relationships\/"},"modified":"2020-07-09T11:41:56","modified_gmt":"2020-07-09T11:41:56","slug":"how-to-avoid-users-abusers-and-manipulators-in-dating-relationships","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/how-to-avoid-users-abusers-and-manipulators-in-dating-relationships\/","title":{"rendered":"\u5982\u4f55\u5728\u7ea6\u4f1a\u548c\u4eba\u9645\u5173\u7cfb\u4e2d\u907f\u514d\u4f7f\u7528\u8005\u3001\u65bd\u8650\u8005\u548c\u64cd\u7eb5\u8005"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Although we join the dating scene in order to find true love, the uncomfortable truth is users, abusers and manipulators do exist. So, how can we avoid users, abusers &amp; manipulators in dating and relationships effectively?<\/p>\n<figure><\/figure>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Have high standards.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><em>You are teaching other people how to treat you<\/em>. If you don\u2019t have high standards, you are actually saying, \u201c<em>I\u2019m happy to accept whatever you give me<\/em>.\u201d This is sad but true.<\/p>\n<p>Therefore, you would be well-advised to set high standards and stick to them at all times. Never settle for less. <u>Truthfully, if you settle for less, you will get less than what you settle for!<\/u><\/p>\n<p>As long as you can implement the above-mentioned strategy, you will avoid users, abusers and manipulators in the first place.<\/p>\n<p>But if you\u2019re already in a toxic relationship, please keep reading\u2026.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>How to out-use a user:<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Out-using a user is simple. All you need to do is to identify <em>what this user really wants<\/em> \u2013 that is the user\u2019s <em>motivation<\/em>. Then you can use this motivation to get the user to do whatever <em><strong>you<\/strong><\/em> want, thereby out-using the user at any time.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>How to out-smart a manipulator:<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><em><strong>In life, you don\u2019t get what you deserve; you only get what you negotiate<\/strong><\/em><strong>.<\/strong> Let\u2019s say you are in a relationship with a manipulator. You are basically playing chess, unfortunately. Having said that, if you are already in this situation, you have to be a switched-on, smart cookie. Negotiate with the manipulator in a tactful way. Once you\u2019ve got what you want, you must end the relationship <u>immediately<\/u> because if you <em>don\u2019t<\/em> leave the manipulator, they will take 10 times back later.<\/p>\n\n    <div class=\"xs_social_share_widget xs_share_url after_content \t\tmain_content  wslu-style-1 wslu-share-box-shaped wslu-fill-colored wslu-none wslu-share-horizontal wslu-theme-font-no wslu-main_content\">\n\n\t\t\n        <ul>\n\t\t\t        <\/ul>\n    <\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Although we join the dating scene in order to find true love, the uncomfortable truth is users, abusers and manipulators do exist.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1674,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_bbp_topic_count":0,"_bbp_reply_count":0,"_bbp_total_topic_count":0,"_bbp_total_reply_count":0,"_bbp_voice_count":0,"_bbp_anonymous_reply_count":0,"_bbp_topic_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_reply_count_hidden":0,"_bbp_forum_subforum_count":0,"pmpro_default_level":"","inline_featured_image":false,"_price":"","_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_header":"","_tribe_default_ticket_provider":"","_tribe_ticket_capacity":"0","_ticket_start_date":"","_ticket_end_date":"","_tribe_ticket_show_description":"","_tribe_ticket_show_not_going":false,"_tribe_ticket_use_global_stock":"","_tribe_ticket_global_stock_level":"","_global_stock_mode":"","_global_stock_cap":"","_tribe_rsvp_for_event":"","_tribe_ticket_going_count":"","_tribe_ticket_not_going_count":"","_tribe_tickets_list":"[]","_tribe_ticket_has_attendee_info_fields":false,"footnotes":"","_links_to":"","_links_to_target":""},"categories":[176],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1615","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog","pmpro-has-access"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1615","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1615"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1615\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1674"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1615"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1615"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/globalsinglesparadise.hehematch.com\/zh\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1615"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}